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Stress-Free Nursing in Public

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

Read my guest blog post for Mommy News and Views about stress-free nursing in public (reprinted below).   Click here to enter to win a free win a free Milk nursing top  from this same blog!

Stress-free nursing in public 

Mastering breastfeeding takes patience.  With time you learn proper latch-on, positioning, and how to gauge your baby’s sensitivity to external stimuli while nursing. 

 But once you have that down and are ready to hit the road with your baby, how do you get comfortable nursing in public?  Inevitably your little one may need to nurse when you are out at the mall, in a restaurant, at a wedding, or in the park.

Stress-free nursing in public can be as simple as:  scoping out a spot, dressing for it, and feeling confident about what you are doing.

Scope out a spot:  Some moms and nurslings are comfortable nursing out in the middle of all the action.  Other babies are distracted by outside activity while nursing, and some moms need a relaxed spot in order to let down.  It is almost always possible to carve out a private space.  If you are in a shopping mall, an empty dressing room is ideal for privacy and quiet.  Or try one of the comfortable lounges before the entrance to ladies’ rooms in department stores.  In a restaurant, positioning your chair away from the activity will create a personal space for you and your nursling.  If you are at a wedding or party, find a separate room to escape to.  If you cannot, moving to a quieter corner towards the back can work as well.

Dress for it:  Anticipate your outing when getting dressed.  Make sure that your clothing provides nursing access – for example, having to lift one’s dress up from the bottom to nurse would not be conducive to public breastfeeding!  Make sure your top can lift comfortably or that your dress has buttons or another type of opening at the top.  A light blanket or loose scarf can provide additional discretion.  Wearing a baby sling is ideal since your nursling can breastfeed peacefully and discreetly while you are going about your day.  Wearing a nursing camisole or nursing top makes breastfeeding even more discreet by keeping your body covered while you nurse.

Feel confident about what you are doing:  The most important thing is to feel confident about nursing your baby.  While it’s true that some people may not be used to the sight of a nursing woman, if you feel good about what you are doing, you will project that image to others.  They in turn will feel more relaxed too.  In short, people will take their cues from you, and when you give off the signal that you are comfortable with what you are doing, others will be too.

As an extension of the tips above, try to nurse your baby before leaving the house to give yourself more time before the next feeding.  You can also nurse in the car (not while driving of course!) right before getting out.  Finally, read your baby’s cues and nurse them before they get too hungry, to minimize fussiness while breastfeeding in unfamiliar places.  

Enjoy nursing your little one – no matter where you are – knowing that you are giving him the best possible nutrition, and helping to create a very special bond.

Elisa Minsk Hartstein earned her MBA from Columbia University, is the mother of 4 breastfed children, and is the founder of Milk Nursingwear www.milknursingwear.com.  Prior to founding Milk, she created the Expressiva Nursingwear brand, which she sold in 2007.

Help – I have a wedding to attend!

Thursday, June 4th, 2009

When nursing moms get invited to a wedding – our first thought is, “what am I going to wear!”   Formal clothes don’t always lend themselves to breastfeeding – access can be a challenge.   But don’t despair, you CAN dress up and nurse your baby!

On a personal note, I can tell you that nursing my second child in the bathroom during a  cousin’s wedding in 1999 is what convinced me that I had to pursue my idea of developing a new line of nursingwear, one that included stylish dresses!   I missed out on the emotional speeches and toasts that evening as I sat in the bathroom, dress up to my head to nurse.  I knew there had to be a better way.

So here are fashion tips for those of you who will be attending weddings this summer:

  • Wear a  stylish nursing dress so that you can nurse discreetly and do not have to remove yourself from the festivities for feedings.
  • Select a non-nursing dress that has buttons down the front.  This provides access for feedings, and if you are able to cover up with a nursing privacy cover or a light blanket, you may be able to avoid having to excuse yourself to a bathroom or secluded area for feedings.
  • Wear a two-piece outfit so that you have easier breastfeeding access.  Even more convenient is to wear a nursing top with a skirt, so that nursing discreetly is not an issue and you can stay in the party and nurse.
  • If you will be attending the wedding without your nursling, calculate whether or not you will need to pump or express milk during that time.   If so, make sure that you are prepared and have everything you need. 
  • Be sure to wear nursing pads to avoid leaking on your beautiful dress or top!
  • Here are some great dresses for summer weddings - and because these styles can go from casual to dressed-up with a change of accessories – you will enjoy wearing them all summer long.

 

 

You will be a lot more relaxed, confident, and will enjoy the wedding more if you are dressed for breastfeeding.  It will mean less wrestling with your clothes and more time enjoying the celebration.  If you have been to a wedding with your nursling and have other tips to offer, please click on the comments box below to share.